Category Archives: strategy

My Performance Review

Is coming up on July 5. That’s when my husband says he’s going to review my performance as a wife over the past year. I pointed out that I didn’t know ahead of time what criteria I was being judged … Continue reading

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The Real Housewives & Diversification

What can be learned from the mistakes of TV’s most-appealing surgically-modified millionaire housewives? Diversify. Camille Grammer, Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star and soon-to-be-ex-wife of Kelsey Grammer, has fake boobs, four nannies and a life that is 100% invested in … Continue reading

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Deconstructing Takeout

More proof that Hillary Clinton and I are, like, totally soul sisters. Speaking to Australian radio hosts Hamish & Andy about life at home with Bill, she explains that even ordering takeout can be fraught: If he says to me, … Continue reading

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Game Theory Solves the Toilet Seat Problem

How to use game theory to solve the toilet-seat problem once and for all. Continue reading

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Signaling for Sex

How do we ask for sex without risking rejection? Effective signals help improve coordination – on teh baseball field, and in the bedroom. Continue reading

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The Real Marriage Ref

Here’s a solution you may have overlooked last time you butted heads with your spouse: Let someone else decide which of you is right. That’s what the Web site side taker is all about, only that “someone else” is the entire online community. Continue reading

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Paula on CNN AM – How Much Email is Too Much?

A post I wrote for The Juggle, The Wall Street Journal’s blog about the trade-offs people make juggling work and home, got a surprising amount of attention. It was about the downside of marriage by email, and how much is … Continue reading

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