One of the most delightful, clever and helpful books about marriage I’ve ever seen.- Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and CommittedThe book is grounded in solid research, makes economics entertaining, and might just save a marriage or two.- Bloomberg NewsA convincing and creative case for how the dismal science can help reconcile marital disputes.- Washington PostThe more you think about it, the more it makes perfect sense.- Sunday TimesPractical, compelling, and often hilarious...The minute I finished the book, I started to experiment on my husband.- Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project
Results From Our SurveyWhat we heard from the more than 1,100 people who took our Exhaustive, Groundbreaking and Very Expensive Marriage Survey:
- 48% offer to do "something in exchange" to get what they want
- 48% have sex when they're not in the mood "to earn good will"
- The hardest part about being married: 'Agreeing to disagree'
- #2 reason people don't have sex: "Not in the mood"
- The hardest part about being married: 'Not always getting my way'
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Category Archives: commitment
I’ve concocted a commitment device and her name is Nina. She’s a friend who lives one block away, loves to run and can help me get the running stroller and baby down two flights of stairs at 6:30 a.m.. In douchebag Wall Street parlance, it’s win-win: Kid #1 gets fresh air, I get bonding time with the baby and a friend, and my ass might even shrink a bit along the way.
One of the recurring issues in my marriage is logistics: How to get my husband to remember a date, to call a handyman, to book plane tickets. (And don’t get all critical of me being critical of him–he wouldn’t disagree … Continue reading
But when do I ever do that? Not long ago, I wrote a blog post for The Wall Street Journal called, “The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much.” I recommended 5 tips … Continue reading
I spend too too much time thinking of the millions of things I plan to read and no time reading things like, the newspaper I work for, the blogs I love, the classics I definitely plan to read. The Kindle is a commitment device. To be literate again. Continue reading
Economists would call this bad intertemporal decision-making (a fancy term which m,eans deciding something today that has consequences in the future). No exercise today, clooged aterties tomorrow. Too many Negronis tonight, not enough synapses functioning in the morning.
The first night, I could barely get out of the house. I felt guilty for leaving Tess and equally bad about leaving Thorold. Who walks out on their infant and husband? But he was a star, pointing out that there was no way I would sleep through her crying and he might (he didn’t). Continue reading
I am not a weak-willed person. I ran three marathons after knee surgery, delivered one of my babies without any drugs and skate outside in subzero temperatures without a hat. But I’ve got to confess. When it comes to listening … Continue reading
We dig transparency. It greases the wheels of capitalism and keeps many marriages humming along beautifully. Which is why we love this post by Jenny Rosenstrach on her excellent blog, Dinner, A Love Story. She kicked off 2011 by writing her … Continue reading
A classic example of the problems that arise from asymmetric information–when one person knows more than another–is the blind date. Continue reading
How long after you met your future spouse did it take you to have that thought? It’s a question we asked people who took our survey (you know, that Exhaustive, Groundbreaking and Very Expensive Marriage Survey we can’t stop talking about?), and … Continue reading