One of the most delightful, clever and helpful books about marriage I’ve ever seen.- Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love and CommittedThe book is grounded in solid research, makes economics entertaining, and might just save a marriage or two.- Bloomberg NewsA convincing and creative case for how the dismal science can help reconcile marital disputes.- Washington PostThe more you think about it, the more it makes perfect sense.- Sunday TimesPractical, compelling, and often hilarious...The minute I finished the book, I started to experiment on my husband.- Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project
Results From Our SurveyWhat we heard from the more than 1,100 people who took our Exhaustive, Groundbreaking and Very Expensive Marriage Survey:
- #3 reason people don't have sex: "Angry"
- 75% have sex when they're not in the mood because they "expect to enjoy it anyway"
- 58% talk to their friends about their friends' sex lives
- The hardest part about being married: 'Agreeing to disagree'
- The hardest part about being married: 'Different points of view'
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Author Archives: Jenny
Last night, Spousonomics was named the best relationship book by the Books for a Better Life Award. The event was at the Times Center, Anne Patchett was there, and we won! An award! People read all these awesome books and picked ours. Thrilled would be an understatement. Continue reading
“Cultures” have not figured out parenting. People, namely parents, figure out parenting on a day-to-day, kid-to-kid level (my first child ate raw broccoli and fish; my second will only consume pasta and strawberries). Amy Chua threw us all into a tailspin with her Battle Hymn to tiger parenting. Now Druckerman thinks we should pay homage to the frogs. Continue reading
When I’m scared, I tend to retreat or retaliate. But I bet if I looked my husband in the eyes and took his hand every time I was freaking out — about another looming deadline or my inability to prevent my infant from eating toys that are most certainly made with toxic lead levels in China — I’d feel a lot better.
“I don’t mind getting up,” I say. But by 6 a.m., when little Miss Sunshine is up again, it’s apparent I did mind getting up. I’m grumpy, tired and resentful that my other half is not leaping out of bed. I got up at 12, isn’t it all but written on the bedroom wall that it’s his turn? Continue reading
There are a lot of ways I could be a better human being. I could try acting like my husband hadn’t committed treason every time he leaves a table of dirty breakfast dishes. I could remember that it is a 2-year old rite of passage to ask “Why?” 7000 times a day before I snap and respond, “It just is, okay?” Continue reading
I’ve concocted a commitment device and her name is Nina. She’s a friend who lives one block away, loves to run and can help me get the running stroller and baby down two flights of stairs at 6:30 a.m.. In douchebag Wall Street parlance, it’s win-win: Kid #1 gets fresh air, I get bonding time with the baby and a friend, and my ass might even shrink a bit along the way.
This Mother’s Day, I’m taking some advice from the book. I’m saying exactly what I want for Mother’s Day. The chance to sleep in. Coffee and breakfast in bed. And handmade cards from every member of the family. Continue reading
Making these lists always irked me. It was a reminder that I did more. I wanted my husband to know all the useless yet vital information occupying precious space in my shrinking brain. Who made me the 24-hour manager of our family? Continue reading
So a few days ago, I bought a pilates DVD. The kind you do at home. When you have no life. Or two kids. Buying the video bummed me out. Continue reading
There’s a name for this particular brand of self-delusion. It’s called confirmation bias: Our tendency to look for evidence that confirms our beliefs or decisions while actively disregarding or ignoring any evidence that might challenge that which we wish to be true. Continue reading