Definition of a ‘Good’ Marriage-Then & Now

Inspired by this then/now chart at I Love Charts. There are few better ways to look at change in perception over time than through the lens of marriage. Readers, what have we left out?

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5 Responses to Definition of a ‘Good’ Marriage-Then & Now

  1. Jessie K says:

    Cute pic. Why did you give credit to the charts site? Yours was totally different.

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  3. Courtney says:

    it’s funny, & I get the “evolving realism” thing you’re going for here, but honestly this is just depressing to me. if you’re constantly gunning for alone-time, don’t like the same activities, don’t feel compelled to be physically affectionate, & don’t feel compelled to be monogamous…why be married at all?

    I’m not trying to be snarky; this is a legitimate question: the perspective presented in this chart is a fairly common one, I think, but it doesn’t depict any marriage I’d want to be in. & not because I’m some starry-eyed teenager.

    • Paula says:

      I hear what you’re saying and, yes, I am mostly trying to make a point. My husband and I are best friends, but alone time and a realistic expectations are definitely key to a happy union. I’m sure the diagram will change again in a few years. Key is to know that marriage is going to change, just like life does, and be ready and open to it, instead of afraid or stuck to a set notion of what your marriage “should be.”

  4. Ella says:

    I’m happily married and firmly in the second chart. Not depressing at all, just wry. Much as I adore my kids and husband, some time away from them is also welcome. I don’t need to kiss in public because I can kiss (and more) in our home. Unlike at 16.

    I would add: Age 16 – all or nothing, Age 36 – compromise.

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