Working moms are apparently happier in their marriages when they’re super busy at work. That might be because their husbands tend to then help out more at home, according to researchers. (And p.s., husbands who do more housework have more sex with their wives–this again, according to “scientists”.)
This makes no sense to me. Wouldn’t a working husband whose wife is always busy at the office, eventually grow resentful if more of the housework falls in his lap–just as a working wife would resent it? And wouldn’t that husband wish he could see her more often (just as a wife would in his shoes), and often wonder whether the sacrifices are worth the money and prestige? Would he really pick up the broom and whistle while he works?
Hard to believe. But maybe my marriage is different. We both work very hard to pull our weight at home. We have our assigned household tasks and we expect each other to do them (though I always fail him in my refrigerator-cleaning duties). We earn roughly the same amount, though depending on the year, one of our jobs is usually more demanding, leaving the other one stuck with more of the chores at home. “Stuck” being the operative word–it’s not something either of us relishes, we just adapt and overcome.