I’ve been thinking lately about this concept of status quo bias, our tendency to strongly prefer the here and now and to dread change–so much so that we’ll avoid making difficult decisions altogether. Any change from the status quo can make us feel like we’re losing something, even if we’re actually gaining something new and great in the process. That goes for a relationship’s honeymoon period, when the world is covered in pixie dust and the other person can do no wrong.
Then things change. You get married, have kids, take on a mortgage, and one day you wake up, all David Byrne-like, wondering what happened to the old you.
|Old You||New You|
|Talking trash||Discussing 401(k)|
|Cabanas on the beach||Disney Cruises|
|Spending day in clogs||Getting dressed|
|Multiple orgasms||One real orgasm, two fake|
It takes some getting used to, I know. I’m not here to tell you how to recapture the Old You, just to point out that the New You, if you stop to think about it, has some advantages. Ambien? Awesome. Disney Cruises? Some people have never even seen the ocean. And 401(k)s? That’s just good investing.