How you respond to your partner’s good fortune may be a better measure of the health of your marriage than how you react to the bad stuff, according to new research out of the University of California.
Here’s what the New York Times says about the study: “In their analysis of response styles, the researchers found that it was the partners’ reactions to their loved ones’ victories, small and large, that most strongly predicted the strength of the relationships. Four of the couples had broken up after two months, and the women in these pairs rated their partners’ usual response to good news as particularly uninspiring.”
Being happy for your spouses is a no-brainer, or in econ-speak, it’s an incentive: It motivates them to be happy for you when your ship comes in. Everyone wins.